Our Secret Wedding

Denial: One Big Consequence of a Secret Wedding

By Jenny Wednesday September 14, 2011

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It’s been over a year and a half since Cory and I eloped. You would think by now it would be well known to our closest family members that we are actually husband and wife, joined as a family, legal, permanent, etc. Wrong.

I think a significant consequence of having a secret wedding is the denial people suffer if they don’t witness you saying your vows.

My parents, siblings and Cory and I were at a gathering this summer and posed for a family photo. Next, one of my family members (who will remain nameless) said, “OK, now one with just our family.” Duh!

Cory and I are family now, whether we had two or two-hundred witnesses, whether we eloped or had a formal wedding. I’m just not sure how this fact is ever going to register in the minds of some people.

We remain convinced our decision to elope was best for us. I’m just saying there are consequences and this is one of them.

Flowers for our secret wedding

By Jenny Wednesday September 22, 2010

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Eloping can mean skipping out on many of the features of traditional weddings, but flowers were important to both of us.

Flowers were one of the things I really wanted for our special day, but not in a bridezilla sort of way. We didn’t especially care which flowers we had; we just wanted the heightened feeling of occasion added by arrangements, corsages, boutonnieres and hair pieces.

Using the Internet made choosing the flowers for our secret wedding a pleasure and a breeze. Since our secret wedding took place in Toronto, it was an easy decision to go with a company called 416-florist.com.

I liked this approach because the company name was easy to remember. When you’re planning a secret wedding, you need things to be simple! (This is exemplified in the video of us en route to the chapel, below.)

At first, I decided I’d just click and order over the Internet. When I noticed the flowers we wanted weren’t clearly available as a hair ornament, I phoned (by dialing 416-florist). Ravi was knowledgeable, competent and friendly and took my order via credit card over the phone.

On the morning of the wedding, I got a call on my cell phone to the door to collect our order. The driver didn’t even wait for a tip!

I did some research, and it seems there are similar companies all over that deliver to the States and Canada. Another I can recommend to those of you outside the Greater Toronto Area is 1-800-FLORALS, which delivers all over North America. You’ll be grateful for the easy-to-remember phone number/Web address combo!

Our Wedding

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Eloping was not an easy choice but it was easily the most optimal. We wanted it done our own way, with elements of a traditional wedding mixed with an unorthodox, unique angle. For example: me, a country boy, took a subway to his wedding!!
I can’t imagine planning a wedding for two years or longer. Six [...]

The inevitable wedding reception

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When I call it “the inevitable wedding reception”, I’m being tongue-in-cheek. You can, of course, elope without having a large reception following your nuptials.
In our case, we got a lot of feedback from our parents, other family members and friends suggesting they’d like to celebrate in some way, and that brings us to the reception [...]